What is ADHD: Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a chronic condition that affects millions of children and often continues into adulthood. ADHD includes a combination of persistent problems, such as difficulty sustaining attention, hyperactivity and impulsive behavior.
I won’t get too sciency on you, but you get the idea.
The reason I choose to write this blog was because my brilliant, intelligent child has ADHD, I deal with this on a daily basis and no matter how much support I get or how much therapy, meditation etc I do it is still a battle to deal with it. On the big plus is that my child is very creative, lovable and intelligent too.
When my son was diagnosed with ADHD I learnt quickly that not everyone was aware of what the condition is. I would always be put down about my parenting and I had to listen to comments like ‘don’t you tell your son anything? what kind of parent are you? Control your son! Look at him hitting his mum!’ And many more. I didn’t know how to respond to this until I did my own research on it and learnt about ADHD myself. I then knew it wasn’t how I was parenting my child, but it was his condition that was making him behave the way he was.
The reason I say ‘making him behave’ is because ADHD in children block of part of the brain where it signals the child to make the right choices. My son knows from right and wrong, and he also knows when he is doing wrong but he cannot control that, and he is remorseful and sorry when that mistake or that ‘bad’ behavior has been carried out; but then it doesn’t signal in his brain not to do that again because of how his brain is wired.
Here are a few tips I can pass on that I have learnt along the way of how to deal ADHD behaviors:
Behaving badly – need to let the child calm down and then talk to them about it afterwards. I have learnt to ignore my son when he doesn’t listen, and this always calms him down and then he will come to me and say sorry, and I get hug a big hug out of it too.
Emotional and physical love – it is very important that your child gets a lot of love and support from you no matter how bad the behavior is but also be firm about how wrong they were.
Remember Children with ADHD are very intelligent so praise them every chance you get.